Sympathy Cards

Writing sympathy cards does not have to be complicated. There is no need for flowery words, unless they are sincere. The best sympathy messages are those which are written in a genuine way. It is the message that is personal and came from the heart. When someone we know loses someone beloved, it is a natural instinct of ours to send our condolences. But sometimes no matter how people try, they are simply at a loss for expressive words.

Writing a sympathy card can be done with a guide from the following pointers.

Stationery and Ink

The choice of stationery helps speak the message. In choosing the paper, pick one that is personal. It can be the stationery you use personally when writing to close friends and families. Avoid using business stationeries as they lack the personal touch. Bear in mind that you are reaching out to a bereaved individual in a sincerest manner possible. In business, it is implied that everything is carried out without emotions. You do not want to convey such a concept in the sympathy cards.

The choice of ink, too, matters. Use black or blue ink because they are formal and discreet. Colored inks like red, green, gray, fuschia and others are best reserved for fun. Death is serious and can be overwhelming.


The headers are where the details about the recipient are found. So in addressing the sympathy message, the immediate family is chosen, for example, the widowed wife or widower husband or the orphaned child and or children. However, if you do not know the deceased personally, then address the sympathy cards to the nearest relative or to a family member whom you maintain a close relationship. Express your sympathy and the wish for that person to find comfort in that saddest moment.


Speak from your heart. Write what you want to say to the bereaved. Make it straightforward by using simple and precise words. Sometimes, few and shorter lines speak more than a hundred words. In times of grief, the bereaved families cannot take in many words as they are already exhausted from the death that occurred and the ensuing things to accomplish. It would be best to make the message brief and direct to the point, after all, it is the sympathy expressed and the effort of expression that is appreciated.

Do not forget, however, to include acknowledging the achievements of the deceased. If you are unfamiliar with the life of the deceased, you can simply say in your sympathy cards it would have been very nice to have that person in his or her life.

Writing Sympathy Cards